putting together the pieces

[Ben D]

I have experienced a few paranormal things in this house and so have a few others over the years, but lately I've been trying to open myself to these experiences rather than fear them and try to shut them out like I have my entire life. a few days ago I had a pretty scary experience with feeling something holding me down and not being able to breath and since I have been putting together the pieces of all the things that have happened, the stories I've heard and the very vivid dreams I used to have, my paranormal experiences at the house and those of people I trust. so as far as I can tell this is the message that the spirit has been trying to tell me and for some reason it just makes complete sense to me like a light bulb went off in my head. I think the spirit that is so restless is that of a boy about 20 years old that was killed in the lake behind my house. the story goes that he was at a neighbor's house during a party and was in some kind of argument with his friend, they both went out side and only one returned inside. according to witnesses they talked for a few minutes and the boy that died stayed out by the lake while the other went back inside, they said they argued about something but didn't see any fighting and when the witnesses went back inside just the boy that died was sitting by the lake with his head between his knees like he was crying or sad about something. supposedly the other boy that was with him stayed inside the whole night with plenty of other people but the boy that died stayed outside, in the morning one of the partyers found him dead in the water, drowned with no sign of a struggle. that would explain the few times I have been choked in my sleep but the next part is even more disturbing. I used to have this recurring dream of people digging in my back yard and I would get so scared, in the dream I was afraid that who ever was digging would find a girl buried and I would be blamed for her death. in the dream I was some one else but the dreams felt like memories, its hard to explain, I would feel the guilt and the worry and the fear of judgment. I had these dreams when I was about 12 to 15 and then I moved out of the house and have not had that dream again till I moved back in about a year ago. now once in a while I get the dream returning, in the dreams I am not me and I can't recognize the other people in the dream. I was thinking why haven't you moved on, what are you still doing here? and then flashes of those dreams came to me and I had the thought that he (the spirit) was afraid to face the light because of his involvement in this girl's death. he feels enormous regret for taking her but I don't think he is the one that killed her, I think he knew about it and was part of it but didn't want to kill her. I get that there are two or three other people involved and one of them killed him when they felt he was going to crack and give them up. I'm not sure if the girl is buried near my house or if that reference was used just to help me connect the dots. I get that the girl has moved on and is in the light so don't worry about her but the other(s) are still living and have not faced judgment. he also is too afraid to go to the light and face judgment, he is afraid that he will be connected to the crime if the body is found and his family will judge him as well. so to me it is a little confusing, what does he expect me to do? I'm not going to go digging around the yard looking for bones, I'm not going to be able to do the type of investigation to bring him or the girl justice, I will pray for him and assure him that if he ask for forgiveness he will receive it. I don't think he is out to hurt any one but if he continues to stay out of the light in fear there will be nothing good to come from it. I have asked him for his message and received it, but what can I do now?

[Claudia]

You should light some candles and tell him that he is in a different demention and he needs to find the light and he needs to go because there is nothing for him there. Cross him over!!!! Thats what he needs help on. He is afaird because he feels guilty and a gulity cancous is never good in realy life when we are thinking about that problem sometimes can not sleep over that. So in resault thats why u have dreams because you need to make him cross over and tell its all alright then pray lots of prayers important! He is scared and lost and alone!!!

[Ben D]

now that was strange. as I was reading the info on the link you provided I also had the tv on, and every time I turned my attention to the tv I would get taps, clicks and knocks all around me. then I'd go back to reading and they'd stop, it almost felt like there was something hovering over my shoulder, like he was asking me to read it for him? so strange though, there was tapping on the top of the desk not six inches from my hands, the walls next to me, the floor around me, the remote for the tv was sitting right next to the key board and I heard a tap on it then it moved just slightly. the info you provided is excellent, very helpful. I will try the methods provided and see if it makes a difference, I have a feeling it will. thanks

[Louis Charles, (LC) Publisher]

Talk openly with him, and help him to understand that there is no judgment, other than what one self imposes. He will need to learn to forgive himself, for he is the judge that imposes his own sentence. Fear will hold in a state of darkness, unless he faces it by heading to the light, whereby a life-review will instantly cause him to confront his past. This process is part of a cleansing that will occur.

You may ask him if there is any more information he can give you that will help him feel he can move on. He is trying to release his guilt, if what you feel happened is correct. I would suspect the experiences you have had with him were his attempts at trying to get someone to listen to him, sort of like yelling, "Hey, I'm here!" Acknowledge, comfort, then guide him. You may want to read the spirit rescue page, as well as play the audio several times. This may help him to comprehend his condition. Perhaps, those on the other side will also help him from a position of love and forgiveness. Here are the links:

Spirit Rescue
Spirit Rescue Audio

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